From the moment you met your pride and joy you should have known this was not going to be a walk in the park! We know humans do not come with a manual or a set of instructions; so, from that moment on we figure it out! Once the baby is here a mother is on the clock 24 hours 7 days a week. We do not get sick days, vacation days or any free time. Yes, someone can take your kid for an hour or two.. maybe even spend the night, but the whole time your child is out of your sight you’re thinking of them and constantly checking on them.
After delivering your precious human the typical workplace gives us 6-12 UNPAID weeks off; calling it maternity leave. If you have sick time and paid time off that’s a plus, but after being pregnant for 40 weeks you dig into that time for appointments and simply just not feeling well. Some people have to rush right back to work because they may not be able to afford bills without any income. Once your maternity leave is over, you’re back at work, working 8+ hours a day. Then you have to go home to your baby and still work. By the time you make dinner, give your baby a bath, put the baby to sleep then finally shower (because 9 times out of 10 you can’t do that while the baby is awake) the whole day is over. Point being, it is impossible to be a full-time mother while working full time. Most women will say “I’ve done it, it’s not hard” but ask those same women if they were present when their child first clapped, crawled, walked, said their first words, danced or even stood up alone for the first time; their answer may be no.
As a first-time parent I do not want to miss any of those moments. Humans are here on borrowed time so all we have to hold on to is memories. Going back to work for me at 12 weeks did not sit well with me. Every chance I had I Facetimed my daughter’s dad to see her. Then I thought to myself 12 weeks was not enough time, I needed to bond with my child. After being at work for three weeks i decided to give my notice. It was the best thing I’ve ever done in my life. I have been stress free, well rested, and more connected to my daughter than ever. Every day we get to eat breakfast together, read a book, eat lunch, play with her toys, take a nap, eat dinner, take a bath and watch “Martin” until she falls asleep.
A mothers jobs is never done there is always something to do. Even if dads are involved, they just can’t do it like mom can! But that’s a whole
different story. Mothers are nurturing, it’s just something we have in us that 90% men just don’t have. Women have to come together and be there mentally for one another and also try the best we can to educate future mothers because this mom lifestyle is no walk in the park. Signed – A Full-Time Mama